With Miss E’s first birthday right around the corner, party planning is in full swing. And it is so hard not to indulge in ridiculous, overblown visions of what it could or should be. But a boat load of money I do not have, and if I did, I wouldn’t be spending it on a birthday party, but college… my student loans, and saving for my daughter’s. Miss E’s first birthday party doesn’t have a color palette. I didn’t send out invitations. And I won’t be making or buying party favors. Is there a problem with any of these things if mama and dad have the time and inclination? Of course not (they’re freakin’ cute). But I don’t.
What my daughter’s first birthday party will have is a cake I’ll bake for her, because I actually like baking (and cake). It will have a new story book for folks to sign, so she can read their messages to her on her first birthday when she’s celebrating her sixth, her tenth, her thirtieth. There will be balloons, but there will also be compostable paperware. There will probably be tears and not-sharing and lots of teething-related drool, but these are baby things. Human things. And that’s okay.
Most importantly, her first birthday party will have as many of the people who love her in one space as we can manage. So if I do cave and try to make homemade doughnut holes and they totally bomb, I’ll know it really doesn’t matter.