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On Choosing a Legal Guardian


Deciding who will care for your child if the unthinkable should happen to you is an ENORMOUS decision. What's a parent to do?At a recent mom’s night in with the friends I made during our childbirth class, the topic of legal guardianship came up. My husband and I have talked before, and at length, about our hopes (and fears) for Miss E’s future should something happen to us. But we hadn’t done anything formal. We haven’t created living wills or named guardians for her if the worst should happen. The conversation with my friends, however, really got me wound up about it. I knew it was past time to make it official. The last thing I wanted was for anyone to be unclear about our wishes. Well, the last thing besides our untimely demise.

My husband and I had both pretty much already decided who we wanted to ask, and we were in agreement but he was still doing some Googling on the subject (we are a generation who Googles everything). One of the recommendations he found said that the first step in choosing a guardian for your children is accepting that you will never believe anyone is as perfect a parent for your child as you are. It made us laugh, and made me think the writer of that particular article is a far more confident parent than I am.

But still.

Asking someone to raise your child in your absence is an enormous thing. Because we decided to make the rest of our lives about her when we started trying to get pregnant, and that’s exactly what we’re asking of her guardians. She’s our whole world. Could she ever be anyone else’s?

I think so.

Author: Jillian Kuhlmann

Mama. Nerd. Writer.

2 thoughts on “On Choosing a Legal Guardian

  1. The husband and I just had the first of what I expect to be many conversations on this topic a couple of days ago. Glad to know we’re not alone in our daunting quest!!

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